10 Ways to Deal with the Boring Times Ahead

Stuck in Quarantine? Home detention? Yes, I understand that we are the lucky few to have the option to be safe, more than hundreds of thousands in the world. We are lucky, we can work from home, we have paid holidays, or we just are scrambling to find ways to survive (like me) I may add to make yourself feel better; we have time. And now more than ever we have time alone.

Being a footballer, travelling the world and often being alone. Gives you time to obviously work on yourself and here are 10 ways to unbore boredom during this time.

1. Exercise! Are you shocked that this is my first one? Know more than ever you can see what works for you. My gym @performanceplayground has gone online and I watch the “gymnastics”, “sweat” and classes online and due to all this commotion on playback for the late nights. I get that it is so easy to crack open all that booze and yeah why not? Try gymnastics, try yoga online, just try what you like, you may decide that online is for you.

2. Update your LinkedIn. Yes, what a geek Aimee? Do you even know what LinkedIn is? Well, it is important and in times like these your “brand” and presence in cyberland will keep you floating. What was that job you did last year? Does it matter? Yes, and when you need a CV just take it off there. You have time to make time.

3. Create an Action Plan. I know a lot of people just go from day to day, yeah life is for living but if you are like me. Reflection and action plans are something to get excited about. What do you want in 5 years? Well go get it. Time now to figure out if you are actually doing what is right for you.

4. Reach out – An easy one you would think. Take the time now to see those beautiful faces. Appreciate them. Although, I ring my parents every day. It is not often that I take the time to really see them. I mean see them and breathe and realise that that moment may not last forever. Screenshot it, breathe it, dream it, live it. SKYPE, I use Facebook Messenger, make time to have a reunion, why not.

5, Write, this is my one. All these feelings and with work I didn’t write. I know it was my goal, it makes me happy but I guess I didn’t and I haven’t because I thought there was no need. There is so much to read these days, why would I need to blog? Well, for me, it is something I love to do and now we have time, so whatever, blog it away.

6. Take time to look at jobs that you never knew existed. I know that this may be pointless but seriously, due to this outbreak, what job has even been safe? What jobs have been created? And what will pay the bills? Take it as a time for adventure, trial things and get working.

7. Read. You hate reading. Well read something you like. Reading equals learning. Anything you read will enhance you in someway, let it build perspective, let it make you forget what is happening.

8. SLEEP – thank God for this one.

9. Go online, honestly it is time to go online. Surf whatever you want and do not feel guilty for it. Try dating, try memes, yeah a new Tiktok Revolution, do what you want, this is your time.

10. And 10, last but not least and dragging out a little. Believe, do something that makes you believe, makes you smile. Falling over in a hotel room the other day trying to do an online gymnastics handstand, yeah. Made me believe that everything is going to be ok.

The Darkness inside an Athlete’s Brain

Starting this post I am feeling an uneasy feeling, firstly because I know that getting inside of the brain of a high performance athlete is dangerous; secondly because every person is different, my experiences, my thoughts and my belief system is true to me and is to be taken solely from a personal view and not to be interpreted as the only way that an athlete’s brain works (you are all educated people so you will hopefully get it :P).

If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” VINCENT VAN GOGH

Dealing with darkness…what does this mean? In any athlete’s life (any life) you will have to come up against yourself and your brain. Inside your brain will be some interesting things. Inside here will be self doubt, anxiety, procrastination, fear, fear, fear and maybe let us just throw in some crazy mood swings just for fun. You may be on edge, you may be so worked up that you under perform even when you DID EVERYTHING to make sure that you could perform. These experiences will either destroy you or create you but persistence is the key. The brain and psychology is one aspect that I wish athletes studied on par with their degrees to gain their best performance.

So how do we deal with the darkness? Sadly, some athletes and people never do, some people learn to live with it and others learn to conquer it. You have the choice: give up, let it destroy you, or fight, fight through to get to the better days of your athlete life.

“Ride the waves everyone told me, enjoy the journey, they told me, I don’t think they realised how fucking big the waves were going to be” – Aimee Phillips

The next post I am going to document 30 days of me trying to use HEADSPACE (a meditation app). I am a very strong, self aware person but have neglected my meditation practices and I feel that this will add to my game and who I am as a person, most importantly. So the next 30 days I am going to document using the app and if it actually changed anything. See my stories and Facebook updates.

Also a massive thanks to my FACEBOOK community. 1000+ likes a month ago, but most importantly, genuine connections and support from you during the last 5+ years. You have helped provide me with the opportunities I have today. Thank you for never leaving my side.

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Football Sucks

I am so sorry to tell you this…BUT there will be some days where football sucks, it will not only just suck. It will ruin your day, it will ruin your night, it will make you doubt yourself, it may make you do none of these things, it may make you want to prove the naysayers wrong, it could do a lot of things BUT from my experience, there will be days where football is just going to SUCK and there is nothing really good to say about it. I understand the feeling too well and empathise with you. I can’t always tell you that it will be ok, because it won’t BUT I will give you hope. That it will only take one game, one game for everything to click for you to feel like you love the game again. And you do love the game. You just don’t like everything that comes with it.

Live with it, use it to be better. There will be a team for you, there will be, you just need to TRUST that with hard work you will get better and continue getting better.

On those days especially, I want you to be good to yourself (I know that it is easier said than done). I want you to really take in this blog post and UNDERSTAND that there are thousands of people out there who would LOVE to be you. However, that thinking does give me perspective but not enough these days. What keeps me going is being kind to myself. I watch my game, I take in what I can from feedback (I do not let people, even coaches perspectives drown my inner soul), I focus on what I did, what I can do better and I MOVE the hell on.

I forgive myself. Yes, that is right, I forgive myself for being so mean and having these expectations on myself. I move on and realise that I am my investment, and I will continue working on my craft. It will get better. It will get better.

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